Monday, August 20, 2007

First home study visit completed!!!

Wow seems like everything is coming together so quickly. Previously we were told this process takes about 3 months give or take but after we met with Kristin Friday, that number changed to a little less than 2 months!
So I was all anxious and excited about her coming over so naturally we made sure our house was spotless before she came. The night before we even thought we should have beverage options and maybe some muffins to offer her when she arrived. She did, however, decline due to the fact that she was going to be talking the whole two hours, which she pretty much did. We went over many papers that we had previously signed and discussed fees and timelines for when payments are due and additional costs that will arise. We also had a discussion about our parameters as far as what we are willing to work with in a birthparent situation (i.e. did the BM use drugs, had she no prenatal care, baby premature, unknown birth father, mental disabilities, BM pregnant as result of rape, smoking during pregnancy, etc). All pretty huge factors to consider. Initially when filling out the paperwork we answred no to pretty much everything because we wanted the baby to be conceived in a way that would be equal to if we were expecting and what pregnancy would have been for me. Must be more flexible!! It's so hard to say, yea I'll 'consider that'. By saying no to most of these things is really going to limit us as far as how many situations we will end up be presented with and we could end up waiting 3 years for that 'perfect child'. I wish it could be the case but most often the BMs come to the Village with at least one or more of these factors. So we changed several of our answers to "will consider" in order to give us a better chance of placement.
So after hashing out all the paperwork and giving her a tour of the house and filling her in a bit about our neighborhood, she told us that her goal is get our home study completed by Oct 1st!!!! That's well under the 3 month mark that we had been told before! We were pretty much shocked--this is all happening so quickly. We have three more meetings with her--Dan will meet with her this Friday at 9 a.m. and I meet with her next Tuesday at 9 a.m. Then we meet her together again for the last time sometime in September once the results come back from our personality tests. At that point, if we wanted to put our profile in the book, we can do so which means we can be selected at any time! Kinda makes us nervous as we dont have a nursery ready yet since we didnt anticipate this moving so quickly. We may have to postpone putting our profile in for a little bit until financially we get our ducks in a row and can be prepared in case it happens fast. We'd like to think that we're gonna get picked right away but dont wanna jinx it and then be sitting here for 3 years with no baby. I cant bear to think of that happening but its a possibility. So I guess things are looking good so far. We just need to pass the home assessment and who knows what could come after October! Keep your fingers X'd and keep us in your prayers. We love you all!

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